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As a parent you are an advocate for your child. As a parent to a complex medical needs, or special needs child your advocacy is crucial, especially when they are very young and can not communicate. That is the most frightening time. You know that the decisions that you make will change and shape your child’s future. Why wouldn’t you want as much information as possible before making such life altering decisions. Any doctor who is offended by the notion that you would like another opinion is more than likely insecure with their own abilities. That is of course just my opinion, but having had so many doctors in my son’s very brief life, I have found that the really strong and knowledgeable doctors encourage the second opinion before it had even crossed my mind. More often than not, their outlook ends up the correct. It has also been my experience that the few doctors that have bared resentment end up being close, but not necessarily on target. My son’s tracheostomy is a great example of another look and the ultimate prognosis[…]
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I have come to realize that as a father to a complex medical needs child that my life is normal. Some that I say this to look at me as if I have three heads, but when you think about it, normal is different for each of us. It is relative to the lifestyle and routines we lead in our daily lives. I remember my son’s physical therapist asking me one time how my wife and I handled everything. My son was the most complex patient she had work with. I laughed as I shook my head in a positive nod and said, ” this is what I do. I have become accustom to this and the things we must do for him medically. When your child has a running nose you help them blow it, I suction my son’s trach tube. You worry about tripping over all the kids toys I am concerned with not tripping on his tubes and wires. You change a dirty diaper, I change a colostomy bag, to me that is all normal now.” I went on to also say, “If you were to ask me to watch a “normal” child my son’s age I bet by the end of the night I’d be screaming for my medically complex child back.” I don’t think I would even begin to know how to care for a child that is not like my son. Funny how that works out isn’t it?

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Words of Wisdom?

Over the past 48 hours I have several individuals that called themselves friends really disappoint me. The fact that anyone who calls you a friend accuses you of trying to get sympathy or to make people feel sorry for me is absolutely absurd. If you were truly a friend then you would understand what my purpose is and that is to share the experiences so that those who are interested in keeping up with things can, but more importantly, potentially help someone that wanders down the path behind me so that they may learn from what I have done. It may also help them with a decision they struggle with. (more…)

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I posted two new articles today for you to read……….

Preceptor Fail is an account of how the nursing agency practically set our newest nurse, who is a new grad, for failure by not following through. It is certain to make you shake your head in amazement & disbelief.

My Son, My Hero is something I wrote while my son was less than 1 month old and still in the NICU.  He has continued to impress and inspire me as well as many others. It is amazing and touching to hear from people how much my son has changed their outlook on life and motivated them to accept more in their own lives.

Thanks for reading my point of view,

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If you are a undependnable nurse, who has averaged just over five call outs per month since November, it is nice wise to ask that client if you could list them as a reference for your resume. Just a few thoughts on this:

  • It is never a good idea to ask that when you are unreliable
  • It should not be asked via text message (yes that is how It was asked) the sad sidebar to that, she left the house ten minutes before said text.
  • It is also not wise to ask for this on a day in which you called in late & also plan to be out the next two shifts, furthering your unreliable status.

Just something to keep in mind for those of you in the job hunt in this tough economy.

Thanks for reading my point of view,

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